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Let’s face it: texting your shot is dangerous. You’re risking getting a “Wait, who is this?” response or, worse, being ghosted by someone who isn’t feeling it.
Unlike face-to-face conversations, when people have to respond when you ask them to hang out (since you’re, ya know, gazing at them), having screens between you may give them the impression that they have a pass to be a bit less sensitive (or quick) in responding. You know what I’m talking about if you’ve ever felt the frigid sting of a text that reads nothing more than “k.” “Rejection and humiliation are such vulnerable sentiments,” explains Maryanne Comaroto, Ph.D., a psychologist and the founder of Queen Of The Jungle, an organization committed to healing the trauma of women. Being the pursuer takes a lot of bravery.
On the other hand, if the person you’re contacting is into you, sending that text could be the start of something fantastic (or, at the very least, entertaining). And it’s something that might not have happened if you hadn’t pressed the send button.
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In fact, despite their cringe-worthy potential, these texts and their responses are important markers of whether this individual really deserves your attention in the first place, according to Comaroto. Also, you must try to play this Should I Text Him quiz.
The difficult aspect is knowing when and how to text them. But don’t worry, these expert questions will help you even before you start typing.
When people are lonely, they often throw caution to the wind, according to Comaroto. There’s nothing wrong with that, she promises, but unless you’re clear in your text about what you want (or don’t want) from this person, you run the risk of leading them on if you’re seeking for nothing more than a late-night cuddle. And, she adds, consider this: Will you still want that person around when you’re not feeling so lonely?
If the response is no, you should reconsider pressing the send button. “How come I’m doing what I’m doing?” Comaroto proposes that you ask yourself. “Are you okay with [this decision] today, and will you be tomorrow?”
Perhaps your thoughts are straying and you’re suddenly picturing yourself touring the world with this person, enjoying breakfast in bed, the full shebang. That’s nice, but it’s not necessarily a cause to text someone. This might happen when you desire someone to be your distraction from reality, according to Comaroto.
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Yeah? Then, without a doubt, send the text. According to Ann Rosen Spector, Ph.D., a psychologist in Philadelphia, the best way in is to bring up something you discussed during your date. If they mentioned a movie they’re really into and you happen to see a trailer for the director’s next picture, send them something like: “Hello, I just saw the trailer for [director’s name new ]’s film. I can see why you’re interested in her work. Would you like to watch it with me next Thursday if you’re available?”
If nothing particularly struck out (are you certain you want to go on a second date? ), send a thank you note and propose something the two of you may do in the future.
There’s no reason to send text after text unless the two of you frequently chat back and forth and routinely spam each other with humorous tweets or memes you come across during the day.
Spector is fine with a double text every now and again, but if you’ve already sent multiple texts that have gone unanswered, they’re probably busy and haven’t received them. Or they’ve seen them but haven’t had a chance to respond yet, or they have no intention of responding at all. In any case, Spector believes that now is the time to take a hint and back off a little.
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